“If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else.”

For many of us, the greatest battles of life are those we have with ourselves. There are times when people can’t forgive themselves for mistakes of the past. It could be due to hurtful things they have said or done. They have somehow been ill-treated either by their parents, spouse, relative, friend or complete strangers and they can’t go beyond this incident. They spend all their time regretting the mistakes they have made.

There are many times when we may not feel good about ourselves. It could be that we feel disappointed from repeatedly falling into the same error or extremely frustrated that we are not fulfilling our duties. Sometimes we are not content with our personality – we may feel detained in by our shyness or out of control by our anger. If it is not frustration or disappointment we are feeling, then its anxiety. Many people suffer from undesirable thoughts, fear, worry and unnecessary anxiety which stems from fear of the future or fear of the unknown. Nurturing unrealistic high expectations cause tensions and not realising them cause’s extreme disappointment, which leaves us feeling more depressed and less peaceful.

Sometimes people feel peaceful when they become very tired. Others think that peace is what you feel after having a few drinks or taking drugs. Being half asleep or desensitized by drugs or a few glasses of wine can keep you from feeling your fear, anger, anxiety, resentment or worry. But this relief only lasts a short time. That turmoil is still there — because peace is not unconsciousness. Peace is not being asleep or being unemotional. It’s the opposite. It’s a state of heightened aliveness, when we become more conscious rather than less, and this requires an awareness of the kinds of thoughts that habitually go through your mind.

In almost all cases — it’s not the external circumstance that’s making you unhappy but what you’re telling yourself about those circumstances. In other words, your thoughts are making you unhappy.

You already have enough challenges to deal with. Don’t let your own thoughts drag you down.

Instead, quiet those thoughts and feel the beauty of your own being. Rather than getting carried along by one distraction after another.

Have you ever realized how many of us are constantly trying to change something in our life because we aren’t happy with it? The result is that instead of enjoying a flowing, peaceful internal experience each and every day, we feel uncertain much of the time. Some of us even feel at war with ourselves at times.

Life is under no compulsion to give you exactly what you expect. Whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you’re expecting. Don’t miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.

You must see and accept things as they are instead of as you hoped, wished, or expected them to be. Just because it didn’t turn out like you had intended, doesn’t mean it isn’t exactly what you need to get to where you ultimately want to go.

Your life does not change, when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when you change, when you go beyond your limiting thoughts when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

The reality is that few people live in a settled, calm, peaceful state of being. Most aren’t truly happy with them. Happiness is actually quite superficial, whereas peace is deeper. Peace is immune to the polarities of life: the highs and lows, the hots and colds, the so-called goods and so-called bads. This is why peace is so crucial. Nobody goes through life without encountering all these experiences, inspiring or upsetting.

Experts believe that people who are peaceful and harmonious can concentrate better, their veins, arteries and nerves function efficiently and they are truly happy with themselves and can live a settled, calm and peaceful life.

Who is hindering your peace of mind? There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your peace of mind. It is you only.